My thoughts on Health & Weight.
It seems like whenever I want to have a discussion about health and weight, things get heated QUICKLY. Somehow the concept that weight/BMI does not equate to a person’s level of health seem preposterous. I am arguing that health can exist at any size but I am met with fierce opposition when I postulate that belief. I have a slew of horrendous comments on a You Tube thread to prove it. Damn, people sure can be rude when hiding behind a screen name.
Anonymous asked: I remember you posting about being a part of a suicide hotline. I've been going through something impossible, and I managed to push it all away but now it's back with a vengeance and I'm not sure what to do. I feel sick with anxiety and at some points absolutely hopeless, even though I know that I have a lot of great things going for me. I'm usually so positive, and I don't know how I fell into this place. I'm beyond a few encouraging words. How do you climb out of the bottom of a well?
Yes anon, I have posted some things related to my work at the hotline. The thing is that I can’t promise anyone, including you, that everything’s going to resolve itself. Because…There is no way I can know that and neither do you. It sounds like you’re going through some really tough things and through this short message I won’t be able to magically make things better… But from the little that you’ve said about yourself, it sounds like you’ve been able to be positive in the past and have gotten through “impossible” things, like you’ve said. That alone, shows the type of warrior that you are. You’re a survivor if you really think about it. Remember that resilience that you have, and try to use that as strength. You really do have all the answers that you seek, as cheesy as that may sound.
But the truth is that no one can do all of this alone. No one should have to go through difficult times alone. Seek out friends and family. And if that’s not possible right now, have you considered professional help. I firmly firmly believe in the healing power of therapy. Hell, I’m paying lots of money to become a therapist and I’m in therapy myself. There is lot of low cost resources out there! And calling a hotline, either suicide hotline (if those thoughts are coming up for, cuz sometimes they do) or a friendship line (somewhere you can just talk it out) is an option. Just know that no matter what, you’ve gotten through hard times and if you choose to, you can do it again.
Hugs and best of luck my dear,
Anonymous asked: What are the must-have/no compromise traits for a guy you would date long term?
1. sense of humor
2. playful, fun personality (adventurous is a plus!)
3. respectful and kind
5. they have to like me for me
Seriously, I just don’t ever want to be one of those annoying couples that posts kissy pictures and mushy posts all over the internet. I like sharing exciting, happy, and interesting things we do together but I don’t ever want to do a gag-worthy overload on PDA or my feelings about my man. It’s just too much and I really value my sense of privacy. That is all.
Anonymous asked: Have you ever had to "break up" from a friend? I have a childhood friend who has been there for me in the past, but we don't have much in common anymore. She's married, has a high paying job, and is having a baby. I'm single, still heartbroken from a 3 year relationship, and struggling with my career. When I hang out with her, I feel like she lectures me (because she cares of course); we just aren't in the same place in life. I've been slowing distancing myself, but I don't know what (cont..)
(cont) to do when I am invited to baby showers, friends/family gatherings because I feel really uncomfortable and far away from her and her social group. I was in her wedding last year, and I know she treasures my friendship and is always trying to get me to hang out, but at this point, I just don’t know what to say. Have you had any experience with breaking up with childhood friends? Or do you just slowly do the pulling away thing and become acquaintances? Help!
Anon anon anon…this is so hard. And frustrating. And heart-breaking. I recently had a break-up with a friend but for other reasons that aren’t your typical life cycle changes. I haven’t had to deal with this…YET. But since you obviously care about her and she cares about you, talk to her. Discuss it. Share a little about what’s going on for you. She might feel similarly. I think that good friendships can last through these big life changes. Find ways to bond over things that you two still have in common.
Best of Luck,
Love love love!
Ever since I started having meals/snacks every three to four hours as prescribed by my registered dietician, I am like clockwork. I get hungry every 3-4 hours. It’s insane. Thought I’d share.
Anonymous asked: I'm ready to make a fool of myself! How do I tell a gent I fancy him? Most importantly, what's a good exit strategy? Do it as a restaurant? Coffeeshop? Before I part our hangout?
Omg. This is exciting. Just do it. Live. Live. LIVE. Tell the dude. If it feels right to you, follow that instinct. If he feels the same way, you’ll know. If not, you’ll be able to move on with your life knowing that you did all you could do. I think that there is no one perfect spot. All I can say is you’ll know when it is the right time. Find some one-on-one 9 (solo) time, in a private-ish spot and the words will follow.
Best of luck,
Anonymous asked: What do you think of "pet names" when you're dating someone? Would you take offense if someone you were dating called you "buddy"?
‘Pet names’ aren’t really my thing. An occasional ‘babe’ or sarcastic ‘boo-thang’ can be fun and feel totally fine to me. A ‘buddy’ might be off putting. However sometimes Salsa Guy calls me ‘dude’ when he gets excited about something. Like “And then they made a sudden gol and won the game. It was sooooo awesome dude.” And I’m always like “um… dudet, sir!”.