Anonymous asked: Can you do a post about why all of your friends in relationships are miserable? Are they just with the wrong person or do they want to be single and date other people? I panic when I get into relationships, but I think it's because it's not with the right person yet... At least I hope it is, and I'm not some forever commitment phobe!
Anon, I think you pretty much answered your own question.
I would say that some, definitely NOT all, of my friends that are in relationships, are miserable because some of them are in toxic relationships where they are interdependent and just cannot let go. Others are just not ready for commitment. While others are simply unhappy.
But I can very well attest to friends in great, healthy relationships. I think that when two people are able to put equal effort into the relationship, and help each other grow, the relationship can be a beautiful thing.
I think we can all get a little scared when it comes to committing because we’re giving up part of our absolute independence. But I also believe that when its the right person, it all falls into place and it won’t feel like you’re losing anything because in actuality you’re gaining a lover, a confiant, and if your lucky, a best friend.